The Sneaky Culprit

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Do you know the #1 reason why ambitious women fail to awaken their big dream and claim ALL the abundance they are pre-destined to have?

It’s not lack of skill, lack of passion, lack of support or even lack of money. It’s usually the presence of something else.

It’s so common it’s ridiculous and not only that, it’s so common that many women don’t even realize they have it. This sneaky culprit worms its way in and feeds off your big dream! (UGH)

Think about the area of your life you’d most like to impact right now.

  • Love/relationships
  • Finance/money
  • Business/career
  • Health/weight

Ok, got it?? Now visualize what you want to have happen in that area of your life. Can you see it??

Close your eyes and think about making it happen, right now, take a deep breath and totally focus in on the possibilities-really allow yourself to see it, really feel it….what do you feel?

Initially you probably feel excited, hopeful, happy, energized. (I hope!) The whole point of having a big dream is to really feel “alive” so of course feeling any of those things completely makes sense.

So why do so many ambitious women push off their big dream, the very thing that brings a smile to their face as they first open their eyes in the morning? Why do they tuck it away in their someday box?

Self-limiting beliefs.

That’s right, and there’s usually one main self-limiting belief that silently sabotages you from pursuing your big dream or drives you to quit before you reach your dream destiny…it pops in all sneaky-like usually affecting you on a deep subconscious level…GRRRRR!!!

Which means that self-limiting belief can hold you back from making more money, feeling more love & connection, bringing a business to life, hitting your weight-loss goals or in other ways you may not even consciously realize. (I told you they’re sneaky!)

To help you uncover if this might be the case for you, I thought I’d share the Sneaky Top 25 Self-Limiting Beliefs so many women I work with have lived with and OVERCOME. (it’s not as hard as you think)

  1. I don’t know what I want.
  2. It’s too late to pursue my dreams.
  3. I don’t need a lot of money.
  4. I’m not enough (smart enough, talented, rich, thin, etc).
  5. If I try I will fail.
  6. You have to have money to make money.
  7. I’ve already tried everything and nothing has worked.
  8. It’s selfish of me to want more.
  9. I don’t feel I really deserve it.
  10. I don’t have the willpower.
  11. I have to work hard and sacrifice to get what I want.
  12. If people really knew me, they wouldn’t accept me.
  13. I should be farther along than I am.
  14. Things will never work out for me.
  15. I can’t be happy until the relationship/career is different.
  16. I shouldn’t put my needs before others’.
  17. I don’t have time.
  18. I’ll never make enough money.
  19. I always have to struggle, while others have it easier.
  20. I’m confused.
  21. I’m too sensitive.
  22. I’m afraid to get my hopes up.
  23. I don’t have what I need.
  24. I’m afraid of what people will say.
  25. I’ve already failed in the past.

Did any of these statements strike a nerve? Did you say, “uh-ohhh, I say that all the time” or “oh boy, that one is totally me!”?? It’s time to take your dream destiny into your own hands by dissolving the beliefs that are sneaky-sabotaging your abundance and happiness.

How do you know if you have a self-limiting belief? If you are feeling some way you don’t like feeling, you are probably believing something that does not support you. It will feel limiting, heavy, restricting or like it weighs on you.

At this point, if you’re feeling this way, you’re probably wondering, “How do I get rid of these sneaky buggers?” If you recognize any of these self-limiting beliefs in yourself, take note:

  1. Playing the blame game for these beliefs doesn’t help, so be compassionate-to yourself and to others.
  1. These beliefs are not facts, not the truth, just beliefs.
  1. These beliefs are not carved in stone, they can be changed; you’re not stuck with them.

What is a belief?
It is a perception of reality, or something you were told that you accepted as truth. Somewhere, someone told you something-and you believed it.

If it was positive and aligned with what your heart desires, it will build you up-perfect! (Buttttt, that’s not the type of belief we’re talking about here.)

If a belief does not feel good, it’s not a self-supporting belief. It will limit you from creating all the abundance you deserve and will keep your big dream locked up in your someday box. (forget that way!)

If you’re ready to go deeper and kick your self-limiting beliefs to the curb, I’d love to take you through a free strategy session to unlock your someday box. We’ll pin point your self-limiting beliefs so you can release that ugly energy and move beyond to the other side-your journey to Dreamland awaits! To get started, use this link to schedule NOW! https://www.timetrade.com/book/994JK

A quick tip: Become highly aware of your feelings. If you’re feeling anything less than wonderful, if you’re feeling tense, anxious, grumps or down in the dumps, you’re probably focusing on what you don’t want (rather than what you do want). When you notice that, catch yourself, then refocus on whatever it was that you listed earlier that you DO want and replace your thought with something better.

Time To Awaken

When I was young, I began receiving spontaneous messages and intuitive feelings on things.

These feelings would pop in about people in my life as much as for myself, leaving me confused because I didn’t understand what they were or what they meant. I didn’t believe I had any spiritual gifts at that time so that thought never even crossed my mind. Truth be told, most of my life reflected hardship and pain. (what did I know about spiritual meaning??)

It was all so confusing, most of the time I thought I was making things up!

I had no idea how to interpret what I was feeling and it felt heavy at times, then other times so clear, light and happy. For most of my life I pushed this intuitive direction away, ignoring all the wisdom it held for me.

It was not until much later in my life that I saw myself as a spiritual teacher, here to share the messages that seemed to make more sense than the inner angst I felt so often, although it was not something I shared openly. I didn’t feel ready or qualified to awaken to my mission, but I was learning that the hardship and pain I had experienced – was the way through to the other side for me. It was true personal training for my spiritual promotion.

I treated my insights like a hobby, dabbling, only sharing with people close to me, but the thought of stepping out in the world and proclaiming it to others (and charging for it) terrified me. (surely someone would laugh at me or think I had gone crazy)

I didn’t quite realize the depth of this Divine voice.

What I was doing was the equivalent of pushing the “snooze button” on my spiritual alarm clock.

I had to work on releasing all the fears that kept me from feeling confident in my lightworker abilities. The more I released, the more my gifts emerged and became accessible on demand. I began refining my innate spiritual gifts, psychic communication skills and spiritual healing abilities.

I discovered as soon as I committed to following my life purpose, doors opened up for me in ways I couldn’t have imagined. In miraculous ways things happened I could never have planned for, everything in my visions became a reality.

I was pleasantly delighted on a daily basis with spiritual signs, cues that I was on the right track and my mission was born to help others shine brightly and actively share their gifts.

I accepted the many signs, signals and messages from spiritual mentors, guides and angels that I am here – to help with the spiritual awakening of humanity. You can see why that was a bit daunting to own initially.

But no matter what I did, no matter the choices I made – it all continued to lead me right back to my greater purpose.

I am here to help you remember you are whole and not broken.
To teach you how to heal and restore your spiritual perfection.
To help you be yourself, your true self.

That happens by bringing presence to your limiting beliefs with a spiritual perspective.

One of my favorite ways I help others, is to neutralize the negative energy that stems from past experiences. Working together we cut the ties that bind you to a negative experience – by redefining it with a higher meaning and purpose. This shifts you from pain and suffering to understanding and wisdom.

This is why I commonly hear how much lighter someone feels after working with me. They quickly if not instantly see and feel a difference in their life. Things start to fall into place very effortlessly, abundance seems to appear out of nowhere. I receive fabulous emails and texts like this one:

“I don’t know if it was that talk we had last eve but things are all of a sudden happening??? Coincidence? So many cool things happening, it’s so unusual. Anyway, I’m feeling very happy today.”

Negative energy has a heavy, dense feeling to it. It’s very draining, something you drag around with you making your progress feel slow. You may feel as if the harder you work, the farther you feel from your goal or dream, abundance feels scarce and you may feel stuck in your stuff.

Negative energy has a way of muddling your perspective of your own brilliance.

I’m here to remind you of that brilliance, that you are whole, spiritual perfection.

I’ve walked in your shoes and personally overcome similar things so I get where you’re at, what you’re feeling. I get how it can suck the life out of you and feelings of overwhelm can set in. (That is not why you are here)

What’s your biggest challenge, fear or frustration?

Whatever it is, I can tell you there is a way to come through and be better for it. It may be the path to reveal your own spiritual gifts or your greater purpose.

You were put here to be abundant in every way, suffering is not your destiny.

If you’d like to discuss or evaluate your abundance (happiness, joy, relationships, inspiration, time, money, resources, etc) schedule a time to discuss. We can see if we’re a match to work together and map out next steps in your awakening.

Until then, NOURISH your spirit and be well!

The Waiting Game

WaitingHave you ever played the game of waiting and felt impatient? We’ve all been there. I know I’ve been Queen of Impatience myself many, many times. See if you can relate to “The Waiting Game”.

You know the drill. You know what you want. You’ve put your thoughts into actions. You’re ready, you’re excited. And now….you wait. You wait for it to show up.

And you wait…

And you wait…

And you wait…

UGH.

Yes waiting can be challenging and darn right frustrating. If you knew for a fact you would get what you really want no matter what, would it make waiting any easier? (uh-huh!)

Hopefully you said a big yes!  It’s not the waiting that’s difficult. It’s when we combine waiting with wondering if you’ll get what you really want-that’s when it gets difficult. And that is what resistance does, it makes everything more difficult and it takes all the fun out of things!

As Rumi said “what you seek is seeking you”.

That means what you want wants you, and even better, it’s coming toward you at this very moment. It’s like a long lost friend coming to reunite with you.

When you create resistance, you wait….longer and sometimes forever depending on how much resistance you’ve created toward what you really want. If your long lost friend was coming to see you and you kept moving but didn’t tell them the address they would have a hard time showing up at your doorstep. You certainly wouldn’t spend your time and energy wondering where they are or what is taking so long right? Manifesting what you want is really not any different.

What you seek is seeking you. So stay in your happy place and let it come to you.  Allow yourself to plan on getting what you want. Don’t worry or pay any attention to when, how or how soon. Just trust the universe is sending it to you—guaranteed! The less resistance you create, the faster it will show up for you. (and not always the exact way you visualize, usually even better)

Your #1 job in this process is to stay in your happy place. Visualize and FEEL- when you get what you really want, how will you respond, how will you feel? Create the scene in your mind or write it out like a story-and then do whatever you can to stay in that HAPPY FEELING vibration all day, every day…until it shows up for you…AND IT WILL! The universe has your happy place address and it’s sending all your dreams to you there!

Happy manifesting!

A Dream Is A Gift Meant To Be Opened

http://www.dreamstime.com/royalty-free-stock-image-opening-special-present-box-gift-magical-effects-lights-image33373856You were born with the gift of dreaming and at one time in your life probably had a lot of fun with it. Then maybe like so many people, you started to “grow up”.  You hit that point where it felt like it was time to get more serious about your life and “be more realistic”. That’s when you put this amazing gift back in its little box as if you were too old to play anymore.

Decisions became based on common sense, from a place of thought and reasoning vs. a place of feeling and intuition. You can’t dream big on common sense and being more realistic is just plain boring. It’s a toxic combination in dream work.

Common sense, or fear in disguise, is the exact opposite of faith and the worst enemy of dreams come true. The phrase “be more realistic” screams limitation and lack, it’s code for “don’t get your hopes up pal.”

Many people never allow themselves to dream because they fear what might happen, or worse, what might NOT happen. They become a slave to fear and do nothing. Nothing guarantees failure more than doing nothing.

Once a fear is developed and reinforced, it becomes difficult to dream beyond it. The dream making process is shut down before it even gets started. Thoughts of failure, disappointment and what others will think hold too many people back from what they truly dream of. It’s so tragic to me.

Can you imagine what the world would be like if everyone had the courage to go for their big dream? Just think…

…there may be a person who dreams of becoming a doctor, but too afraid to pursue it. They fear they won’t have the determination or stamina to make it. They could be the doctor that discovers a cure for cancer….

…Or maybe there’s a person that dreams of being a spiritual teacher but fears what their family will think. They might be the person that shifts enlightenment to help thousands of people live a more purposeful life…

…How about the next great artist, musician, author, engineer, scientist…so many gifts just waiting to emerge but all held back by fear. Every person is here to make a contribution to impact the world in a brighter, better way. I’m determined to help as many as I can make that big dream come true.

So, what is being more realistic really costing you? Do you have a dream tucked away in your someday box? What gifts do you have waiting to emerge? When would now be the right time to release them?

There’s a story of a man who arrived in heaven.  As he toured Heaven seeing all that it had to offer, he noticed a large building in the distance. It was as tall as his eye could see. When he asked what was in the building, an Angel replied it was of no concern to him now. This made the man very curious. He could not stop wondering what was in the building. He couldn’t take the guessing, he ran to see what was inside. Once inside, he saw rows and rows of shelves stacked as high as he could see. Each shelf was lined with thousands of white boxes, each tied with a pretty red bow. The man quickly noticed each box had a name tag.  He ran to find out if there was a box with his name on it.  The man feverishly climbed the shelf and found his box.  The Angel appeared and when the man asked what was in the box, the Angel sadly replied it was of no concern to him now. The Angel tried to stop him, explaining it would only make him sad to see inside the box.  The man’s curiosity was too strong, he opened the box anyway.  Inside he found…his amazing gift-all the dreams he never pursued. And now, it was too late for him.

Life goes by very quickly when you’re having fun but it is much too long when you’re not living your dream. Every moment is so precious. Why not make your heaven on earth and manifest what has already been destined for you?

What could be worse than wondering many years from now what would have happened had you given it a shot?  Don’t leave your dreams tucked away in your someday box. Release them, proclaim and own what is already yours. Feel beyond your fears and take a step toward your dream.

Your dreams were given to you as a gift. All you have to do is ask, with desire, and they are sure to come true. Anyone can dream and anyone can imagine what might be if they only allow themselves to. Will you?

Is there something you dream of? Are you ready to start your dream work? Apply for your free Dream Awakening Session and get started today.

 

Relationships, Another Key in Dream Work

heart keyIt’s important to surround yourself with people that believe in possibilities and-more importantly who believe in you. They say you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with-if they’re not dreamers, chances are you don’t have the support you need as you make your way through your dream work.

If you’re like most dreamers, you have people in your life that try to influence your decisions. Telling you to play it safe, be more realistic, always pointing out why something won’t work or how it’s failed for so many people. Those are not the people to share your dream work with. It’s time to build your Dream Team.

Just like a business has an IT support team to tackle problems and find solutions to keep things running smoothly, your dream will need the same type of support. You can customize your team qualities to suit your needs.

Step 1:

Create a list of qualities needed to be part of your Dream Team.
What type of support do you need? What qualities are required to be part of your Dream Team? Inspiring, daring, successful, positive, risk taker, creative, adventurer, anything is possible…

Unfortunately not everyone in your direct circle will fit the requirements for your dream team. No worries, you don’t have to know everyone personally, in fact, they don’t even have to be alive! You can learn from their example, their energy and their spirit for making things happen. Read their biography, watch videos of them speaking, read their quotes. If it’s a family member that has passed, revisit happy memories or journal the lessons they taught you. (as you may have guessed, Walt is on my Dream Team!)

You may notice new people that come into your life with the qualities you listed. You’ve put a message out to the universe to bring the right people in your life. Doing this exercise will help you identify them. The universe will support you by helping you connect with the people you need to support your dream.

Step 2:

Create a list of people that fit the requirements and needs of your Dream Team.
Who comes to mind for limitless possibilities? Or maybe already lives a magical life? Is there someone you can think of that has already accomplished what you want to do? Who is your biggest supporter? Who is your social butterfly? Who inspires you to reach higher?

Step 3:

When you need help, support, solutions, encouragement, etc-take it to your Dream Team. We all need support and surrounding yourself with the right people is how to get it. You’ll find the inspiration and encouragement you need when you build your own Dream Team.

I hope to be part of your Dream Team. If I can help you advance in your dream work, or if you want deeper clarity about your dream, apply for your free Dream Awakening session.

 

 

Happy Thoughts Make You Fly

http://www.dreamstime.com/royalty-free-stock-photos-colorful-balloons-blue-sky-image19627388Happy thoughts make you fly. They also open you up to attract what you need in your dream work….so get happy! Here are a few quick and easy ways to add happiness to your day.

1) Remember

For a quick mood booster, think back to a time when you felt really happy, joyful, maybe even giddy! Really put yourself back in that moment and remember how you felt. Your mind doesn’t know the difference between now and then, so you’ll benefit just as much from all the happy chemicals released in your system as you did back when the moment really happened.

2) Make a “Love List”

Journal a list of things you love that make you happy. Spending time with someone you care about, a hot cup of tea, a walk outside, snuggling with a blanket reading a good book, taking a hot bath, listening to your favorite song. How many things can you put on your list? Add to it every day. Choose 1-3 things to add to your daily list of to-dos. The more time you spend doing what you love, the happier you will be. When you’re not having a great day, you can easily pick something from your list to lift your spirits quickly.

3) Whether you’re at work, home, walking, driving, there’s always opportunity to find joy.

As you go through your day take notice of what makes you happy, brings a smile to your face-what makes you feel like a kid again? Is it the sunshine, watching a puppy play, a song on the radio, call from a good friend, hearing a funny joke? Make an effort to be aware of every good, happy thing happening around you. With that kind of focus, how could you not have a great day?

If you need help or want deeper clarity with your dream work, call me at 262-501-5209 or apply for a complimentary Dream Awakening Session 

 

 

Business and Happy Vibes

When you play and have fun, magic happens in your business and your life.

Have you found yourself spinning your wheels, hard-focused on your to-do list, chasing the clock and wondering when things will change?

How much time are you dedicating to FUN and PLAY throughout your week? Or do you save it up for the weekend only to end up cleaning and catching up on laundry?

I get it. There’s a lot to do between your home life, family, business. One long list of responsibilities. Taking time off to do something fun seems frivolous right?

WRONG!

It’s all too common for spiritual entrepreneurs to take on the weight of the world. The pressure of wanting to make a difference for others, to create real change, only to end up feeling stuck with your goals at a stand-still because there’s too much to do.

It can feel like everywhere you turn there’s something else you need to take care of leaving you feeling overwhelmed. That feeling is a definite sign that you need a fun break, so your energy can chill out and stop pressing down on you.

Play and having fun has a proven effect on your mindset and your energy. Something so simple and tossed aside as silly and irresponsible.

But truth is, if you’re not having enough fun – you will burnout.

So it’s not irresponsible at all. Enjoying yourself is the best thing you can do for your energy and your business. (otherwise, what is the point??)

Like attracts like-if you feel happy, positive and grateful you’ll attract amazing and positive things that align with your energy.

That means more growth for your goals and your business – plus more joy for you along the way.

Shifting your energy does not have to be complicated!

Here are a few simple tips to ramp up your happy vibe in your business.

Celebrate the positives in your day. You’ll always find what you’re looking for. When you magnify the positives, you see possibilities, feel less limited, experience more energy and bring yourself into better balance. When you feel happier, you dream at a higher level and create more opportunities for yourself. Did you book a new talk? Complete a project you’d been putting off? Sign a new client? Improve your systems? That’s progress worth celebrating! Take a moment to give yourself a high-five. Plan a special treat for yourself to celebrate your wins each week.

Create a just for the fun of it list. Write out things you want to do just for fun. Things you do alone, with friend or family. What did you used to enjoy? What do you want to do again? What new things have you always wanted to try? Who do you love to have fun with? Add these things to your calendar.

Plan things to look forward to. This could be anything big or small, as long as it makes you feel happy, grateful, joyful. Things like coffee with a good friend, playtime with your children, a family hike or an evening out painting with your gal pals while sipping wine. Yes, all of this builds your business. The more you play, the better you feel – the less stress will run your business.

Add more of what you like and enjoy to your life to shift your energy in your business and watch your goals skyrocket.

Play and having more fun opens you up for downloads. You create a vacuum for assistance from the universe. The right people come into your life at the right time, resources you need appear out of thin air, doors open and everything in your business will start to align effortlessly.

It’s time to magnify your happy vibe and play your way to success in your business!

Join us in The Energy Lounge for daily energy support, tips and plenty of fun to keep your happy vibe flowing! Bonus – it’s a great space to network with other spiritual entrepreneurs!

Dreamers Are Special people

http://www.dreamstime.com/stock-photography-dreamers-wanted-phrase-typed-piece-paper-pinned-to-cork-notice-board-image39230882“I have a dream.” Certainly one of the famous quotes of our time. One man spoke those words and started a movement that changed our world forever. Imagine the courage and determination it took Martin Luther King Jr. to proclaim his dream to the world with so many odds against him.

That’s the power of a dreamer fueled by passion. They become unstoppable. Dreamers cannot rest once a dream in their heart begins to stir. Their passion grows and transformation begins. This passion turns darkness to light, hatred to love, desperation to inspiration. It creates miracles.

Simply put, dreamers are inspiration in motion.

Walt Disney, Albert Einstein, Steven Spielberg, John Lennon, (add your name here)-just a few dreamers that have inspired the world in amazing and beautiful ways.

When a dreamer steps into their calling, the world becomes a better place to live in, amazing things happen. Their fixed passion for the causes they believe in create positive change and influence others. The world needs more dreamers to step into their calling.

Unfortunately, many dreamers have not found the way to their dream yet. They wander through their life searching for deeper meaning, feeling lost or flat, uncertain why they feel the way they do. They have passionate visions but many times no direction to help them transform it into their reality.

Regardless, no matter what may not be going their way, a dreamer can’t help but feel deep down there must be more to life. They have an intuitive knowing they are meant for something great. This is what keeps them on “the hunt” for something bigger. And thank goodness because they have so much to offer the world!

I understand that dreamers are special people. I absolutely love how they’re wired. Many dreamers are misunderstood at times, but I totally get what they’re about. So of course my passion is helping dreamers unlock their someday box and help them see how to make their big dreams come true.

Is there a dream tucked away in your someday box? Sign up for my free meditation for the key to unlock your someday box. If you’d like help or clarity to awaken and release your big dream, apply for a free Dream Awakening session or call me at 262-501-5209.

 

 

Belief Turns The Key!

Unlock your someday box with the courage to believe.

“The moment you doubt whether you can fly, you cease for ever to be able to do it.”-J.M. Barrie, Peter Pan

Without belief, your dream work will all be for nothing. No matter how much you dream of something, if you don’t believe in the possibility it can happen, you’ll never bring it to life.

Walt Disney lived his life as a grand adventure, dreaming big dreams, with no interest in being “sensible” or playing it safe.  Although his father insisted he stop dreaming and get a “real job” in a factory, he ignored his father’s advice and followed his heart. And thank goodness! The world continues to be delighted by his dream, his legend lives on.

As a young man he arrived in Hollywood with little more than pocket-change, the clothes on his back, and a dream.  Always believing anything was possible, he focused on dreams rather than obstacles.  He stayed true to his credo – Dream – Believe – Dare – Do.

What worked for Walt, can work for you.

The thing I love most about Disney movies is the good guy always triumphs even against great odds and everyone lives happily ever after.

These themes reflect Walt’s belief in a magical world where dreams really do come true. It’s not always easy, it takes determination and persistence, but anything is possible with the right belief to back it up.

That theme of Dream —> Believe —> Dare —> Do is what my business was built on. It’s how I approach all things in my life.

I believe we live in a magical world and your dream really can come true.

Many dreamers I work with want to believe their dream can come true, but unfortunately they’ve had so many things happen in their life that have led them to believe otherwise. They are filled with resistance and fueled by fear which keeps them stuck. They run low on possibility thinking and question whether they can accomplish what they dream of.

It’s not really that they doubt their dream can come true, they doubt whether it can come true for them.

Self-limiting beliefs have take over and cause doubt and behavior that does not support your dream. If you have tried and failed many times, a pattern of starting, striving and then crashing or giving up you may be running low on how possible what you want feels.

The good thing is while you have fear, you also have courage.

Yes, you can have both at the same time. Fear may be what stops you but courage is what keeps you hard at it.

No matter what may not be going right for you, if you tap into the courage to be daring it will drive you to go for your big dreams again and again.

Fear is not something you are born with, it’s taught, learned over time. It’s a belief given to you by others and it’s a way of thinking that will never serve you in your dream work.

Some fears won’t come out until you’re closer to reaching a threshold. That means the closer you get to the next step or level in your dream work, the more probable it is that a limiting belief will rear its ugly head.

Learning how to identify and eliminate limiting beliefs is a vital part of the dream work process.

They’re sneaky, manipulative and conniving with an agenda that does not serve your progress or happiness. Much like a villain in a Disney movie, they mislead you or trick you into a trap that keeps you from your dream. But like every great Disney movie, there is a happy ending for you-all you need is the belief that anything is possible and the courage to pursue your dream.

Dream work is not about being sensible, playing it safe or being realistic, like Walt has proven, it’s living with the belief that anything is possible and daring to do whatever it takes to make it happen! Stay true to anything is possible for YOU.

I’m here to help you make it happen.

xo,

Nicole
Fellow Big Dreamer + Courage Activator